If you’ve been on the Internet for a while now you probably heard at least one person telling you to get a life, especially if you play video games like League of Legends. If you’re better than others, if you have a different way of thinking or if you appear to be the type of person that spends a lot of time inside, then someone will tell you, at some point, to get a life.
But what does that exactly mean?
If you think about it, each and every single one of us is different. We all look, think and talk in a different way. I’m never gonna be exactly like other people, and the chances are that other people won’t be exactly like me.
If that’s the case, then why do some people believe there’s only one type of life worth living, and if you don’t have that type of life, then you’re wasting yours?
From what I see, I think this is the mentality of people who for some reason consider that their life is better than the lives of others, simply because society made them believe there’s only one type of life worth living, and that consists in going outside, having a lot of friends, posting at least one photo of yourself on social media every single day, going to clubs, dancing to music, drinking, having a lot of sex, a relationship and so on.
According to society, the only way to fully enjoy life is to do all those kind of things, to fit in, to do exactly what other people do because, and everyone should know this, if you do what everyone else is doing, you’re cool. It has to be fun if everybody enjoys it right?
Most people are mediocre, and that’s completely fine. The world doesn’t need to be filled with geniuses who spend 90% of their time working, asking questions and searching for answers. The world needs all kind of people to do all kind of things. That’s how society sustains itself.
The problem appears when a handful of mediocre people believe that they live life to the fullest, because they do what others do, so they start laughing and pointing fingers at those who are different, those who don’t enjoy the company of other people as much, those who spend more time inside and who’d rather be alone than to be outside having “fun” with friends.
That does not mean, of course, that being mediocre, spending a lot of time jumping between relationships, going outside, having absolutely no plans for the future and no motivation to do something productive means that you’re wasting your life.
It just means every single person out there sees life in a different way. Some feel like they’re living when they go sky diving or when they climb high buildings, while others feel alive when they’re dancing in a crowd of hundreds of people. There are also people who spend 8 or more hours a day inside the house, and that’s when they feel good about themselves.
We are all unique and we all enjoy different things. That does not mean some people are wasting their lives while others are fully living it. One of the things that determines if you’re not enjoying your life at its fullest, is doing something you hate because you “have to”.
I hate when people tell me to do a certain thing because I “have to”, for one single reason — in 90% of cases, I don’t really HAVE to do anything. And you don’t have to either. There’s no rush, no one’s in danger, and the result of our action will probably not change anything.
A simple example of this, from my own personal life, is people constantly telling me I should buy a car, because I have to. After all, everyone should have a car, right? No, not really. You see, I hate driving. I despise that activity. I don’t want to be inside a pile of steel, trying to make my way through a city filled with similar things, hoping that I will never crash into anything or anyone or that I will never scratch my beautiful pile of steel that costs a fortune.
I’d rather just walk and invest my money into something different, like computers or phones, something I use every day for work and entertainment.
Life is pretty much the same, the only difference being that you’re spending time doing certain things, instead of money. You should be the one choosing what you do with your time, and just because you choose something society doesn’t consider “cool” it doesn’t mean you’re wasting your life.
It certainly doesn’t mean you should “get a life”.
Focus on investing all your time into doing something you really like doing, be it going outside with friends, drinking at parties or spending 12 hours a day in front of your computer. Whatever you choose to do, as long as you like it, is worth doing.